"My Husband is an Asshole" After fifteen years of marriage, my husband insisted that I perform lesbian acts for his enjoyment with a woman, who I later learned, was his girlfriend. My husband was the voyeur in this threesome. This has been going on now once a week for about a year. I'm depressed and I cry a lot. We have three kids and I don't want them to be raised in a split home, like I was. I might add that I never had lesbian thoughts or ideas before this. I feel like I'm losing myself. What should I do? Diane in Houston   Dear Diane, It appears that your husband is an animal. He is illegitimately taking advantage of your passivity for his own pleasure which is immoral. I think you need to get out of this relationship as soon as possible.Then, you need to find a competent wise person (i.e., 'life coach') to help you discover why you let people dictate your life against your wishes. Good luck!   "Cutting Up In Hollywood" I am married to a plastic surgeon in Beverly Hills. I used to be a minor actress, playing the "Suzanne Sommers" role in several movies. I have all the material things anyone could want. The problem is my husband. Maybe my eyes were closed at first. We met when I was just starting out and I needed to have my nose fixed. Over time, he's "fixed" just about every part of my body. Now he wants to "fix" my labia, to inject them with fat to make them bigger. I'm starting to feel like just another one of my husband's collections (he's big into art and cars). My girlfriends think I'm crazy, but I'm becoming more and more unhappy. What should I do? Hardly Recognizable in L.A.   Dear Hardly, It sounds like you're living a bad Sidney Sheldon novel. What you should do depends on where you want to go morally and spiritually. Right now you're sort of a high class hooker. If you're happy with that, then get the pussy job done. Just remember, your husband will never stop until you're either disfigured beyond recognition or dead. If I were you I'd get a good divorce lawyer, find a spiritual counselor, discover who I really was, and then try to find someone who would love me for who I was, not what I was wearing or driving. Remember looks always vanish, what's inside never does. Capisce!   "Girl Just Wants to Have Sex" My parents SUCK!!!!! They treat me like I am 5 years old and like they're living in the stone age or something. They are punishing me for being grown up and I don't think it's fair. I am a 14-year-old girl who LOVES sex. I love everything about it and it's all I think about. My parents found out from somebody at school that I was sleeping around with just about everybody I can. I developed very early (when I was 10) and I can't help it if all the guys think I'm hot and are constantly calling me up and wanting to screw around. My parents are like "You don't have any self respect" but I do. I just can't stop doing it because it feels good and I'm good at it. It doesn't matter who it is or what time of the day or where we are, I just want to do it. I even had sex with the janitor because he was in the right place at the right time. I have to have sex like, three times a day but I don't think this is a problem because there are plenty of boys and, lately, girls around who are willing. My parents think I am too young to be having so much sex but my Mom was 16 when she had me so how can she judge me like that? How can I get my parents to stop treating me like a baby and let me just live my life? Tammi in Tulsa   Dear Tammi, Let's say we rule out mental problems as your cause, for sake of argument: sounds like what you have runs in your family. Besides listening to your parents, who I'm sure love you and want to protect you, and which I recommend, I have three suggestions: 1) get emancipated, get your GED, move out and get a job, enroll in college, and screw whomever you choose; 2) elope with an older, horny male who will care for you in all ways -- this should be easy to do!! 3) get a fake id, run away from home, and go into the sex industry. Just remember that when you lose you idealism, its gone for ever.